The Gift of Self Kindness 🎁


A co-worker and friend told me a few months ago that she couldn’t understand why I was the kindest person to other people but don’t give myself the gift of kindness. Why is it that I can smother others with free flowing kindness but can’t share with myself? Maybe it’s from habit or from my genes and how I’m made up but it doesn’t matter why. What matters is that I’m happily changing in my life. RIGHT NOW!

Being gentle to yourself means you care enough of your well being and life. Accepting yourself, shortcomings and all. It’s an acceptance of all your traits, even the ones you particularly want to change.

It means that you don’t have to take yourself serious all the time. I’ll never forget a comment a classmate wrote in my senior yearbook…”Don’t take life so seriously.” Good advice, Brandon Fied and it’s stayed with me all these years! Thank you.


Being kind to yourself is a habit you can practice, even if you don’t feel it. The more you do it and forgive yourself, I would imagine it gets easier. My friend and fellow blogger Debbie has a wonderful site on forgiveness at Forgiving Debbie practices self forgiveness and that has inspired me to go easy on myself with love and forgiveness. Check out her lovely blog which focuses on forgiveness, love and acceptance!

This is me being kind to myself I never my favorite place, Ogunquit Beach, Maine.

This is a new day, an opportunity to destroy my low self esteem for once and for all. I vow to wake up everyday and simply love myself as I do with others. I deserve the same precious kindness I share with others. When you’ve lived all your life beating yourself up, it’s tough changing. Despite this, I’m traveling the road to self acceptance and love.
How about you….do you treat yourself with the kindness that you deserve? I hope so, if you don’t let’s do it together! Any suggestions on ways to show myself kindness and forgiveness?

All My Best,

Heart and Soul 💗

23 thoughts on “The Gift of Self Kindness 🎁

  1. Oh Mary!!!! I love this post. Good for you for sharing your own kindness with YOU. You definitely deserve it. And what a great key to forgiveness in humor. My spiritual mentor John-Roger has said, “If it’s funny later, it’s funny now.” 🙂 And “If it’s not fun, why do it?”

    Thank you for mentioning my blog. I’m so glad that it’s inspired you to forgive, and to accept and be kind to yourself, Mary. You are welcome to contribute this post to Forgiving Fridays if you want to!! It would be an honor. All you need to do is include a pingback to my post (you can do that right where you mention my blog) & include #ForgivingFridays in your tags. Here’s my latest Forgiving Fridays if helpful:

    OK Mary, have a wonderful Sunday. Again, I am so touched & really acknowledge you for being so good to yourself. You are a blessing. Love, Debbie

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      1. Hi Mary! I don’t think it worked (if you tried it). Have you done a pingback before? If not, it’s super easy. You simply go back into your post, highlight a word or phrase, and click on the link / chain looking icon. You’ll be prompted to add the web address, and then you save the updates! That’s it. 🙂

        Feel free to email me if you have questions, Mary. My email is

        Much love and blessings, Debbie xo


  2. Got it, Mary! Yay. 🙂 We are good to go – I’ll share this in my Forgiving Fridays post this Friday.

    You are wonderful. Thank you for this amazing contribution. I love your post …. the gift of self-kindness. ❤ ❤ Be good to yourself.
    Love, Debbie

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  3. Oh Mary, you are so welcome. Your post is beautiful. I remember Mother Teresa has a quote, “There are no great acts, only small acts done with great love.” Isn’t that great? ❤

    I don’t know if you’re aware of this, Mary, I do personal forgiveness coaching. I would be quite happy to offer you a complimentary session with some great keys to forgive. This would entirely be my gift to you! There is so much about your sharing that is open and courageous, and I could see you getting great value from a talk together.

    Is this something you’d like to do? If yes, let’s set it up! (And either way is totally fine with me.)

    This session is completely my gift to you, Mary, for all of the posts you’ve done and for the presence you bring to my blog personally and to all of us!

    Have a beautiful Memorial Day weekend!
    Blessings, Debbie

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      1. Sounds great, Mary! ❤ I'm so glad.

        Please know that the offer stands, in case you are ever inspired. You can just let me know.

        I am so grateful to know you on WordPress land, Mary! I experience a heart connection with you.

        Sending you ever so many blessings, to you and your sons!
        ❤ Debbie


  4. I will remember your generous offer and may take you up on it someday. Best of luck to you with your coaching. My sister Barb just got her personal health coach certificate and started a blog and business.

    I’m happy that I know you too, it’s so wonderful to meet friends on WordPress. Blessings to you and have a happy Memorial weekend! 😁💜


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