Don’t Take it Personally❤️



No matter how hard you try

some people will always find fault with

your every action and word.

Don’t take it personally,

for it’s their baggage and insecurity!

The sooner we learn that no matter what…

you are not always going to make everyone in your life HAPPY,

the sooner you can grow and move on.

Keep living your truth and be confident with your

actions and words.

I still battle this… for I’m a people

pleaser and have always been one.

I’m diligently  working on building myself up to

be strong and not to take people’s social media

reactions personally.

I’m just me, doing the best I can.

If I make people smile and be happy,

that’s  great!

If I don’t, well… it is what it is

and I’m not taking it personally!

Do you take things personally, especially social media reactions? I think Facebooks likes and loves have created a monster. The reactions are a nightmare for someone with anxiety because you read into the likes and loves.

What do you think?

All My Best,

Heart and Soul


Get Rid of Fear & Learn Something New




Do you want to pursue a hobby or interest but fear is holding you back? Are you petrified of people’s reactions and criticism? Many people hold back from following their heart their whole life, simply out of fear. Sometimes it’s  easier to just be, than to take the steps further to thrive. Fear stands as a gated barrier for fulfilling ones dreams. The journey to your fate is one YOU must travel. For me, my relationship with God leads me to where I need to be.




All my life I’ve kept fear beside me, coddled it and made it a friend. I can’t blame family genes even though my maternal grandmother was fearful constantly.  Neither can I point fingers at the world but the truth is that it started with me and needs to end with me. Now I’m at a middle age, 48, that changes things! The more I learn and grow,  the more I create that strong skin.



During this journey I have experienced terrible setbacks. Any battle like this tends to have steps forward and a few steps back. Sometimes I think I can’t breathe without fear dominating, but then I regain my strength and squash it. You may feel this too at times and it’s important to know that anything this big and true takes much pain and some setbacks.




My advice to you is do not waste anymore precious time! Simply do it, with a free spirit and resolve. Forget about worrying and wondering about people because it doesn’t matter what they think! If I had kept up with my writing I wouldn’t have lost a few years. With these words I want to encourage you to seek your dreams and find those hidden talents.


I’ve taken an art class on painting once and  tried the french horn in school ( this is when I discovered that my interest in music is merely that and not a talent). A few summers ago I dabbled in ancestry and learned tremendous information about my maternal family and some of my paternal.  It was a magical time of diving deep into the past to discover my roots and in turn I made my mom a book. Are you interested in ancestry?


You have no way of ever knowing what interests you or what you excel at if you don’t get out there and try things. Experience new classes, journeys and trips with others ( my friend Belinda has gone on bus tours with a local bank and met new friends and has seen new places on her trips. It’s amazing that she does this by herself but has gained so much from her experiences.)

I’m in my late forties and if now isn’t the time, when is? Don’t tell yourself, when the children grow up, when I have more money or I’ll do it when life slows down. If you wait for these things to happen, you’re missing out now! No more excuses, just do it!


Get rid of Fear and get out there! Tell yourself, ” I am fearless!” Explore different interests to learn and have fun! That little choice may  fill the void in your life, that uncertainty that has been following you for a long time. What have you always wanted to try? 


As I write this I’m still dreaming of writing a book and exploring other ideas to try. I’ll keep you posted.


All My Best,

Heart and Soul ❤👍











I Wonder…


My family, Tom’s not in this one. Me, my son Branden, Dylan and my daughter in law Lexy.

I wonder why we all seek

that special something

not knowing what it really is!

I wonder if this journey of life

comes full circle

and we all end up close

to our origins.

I wonder how

my story will go…

will it spiral

or flow

or circle

back to

where it

all began for me?

Do you ever wonder where your beautiful life will take you? 

Hmmm….I wonder😉



Happy Birthday, Dylan🎉

I have told you all before that twenty two years ago today my life changed drastically. I transformed from a  26 year old woman to a young mother, a role that I had to learn and practice. Although it took years to learn it all, one thing I never had to try at or practice was loving my son.

As most mothers will retell their story, I cherish telling mine. I awoke at 3 am out of a sound sleep, only to be surprised with my water bursting! After a hurried call to the doctor and a quick shower to calm my nerves, Tom and I headed to the hospital and to our new life. Eight hours later after a labor that I’ll never forget, Dylan James was born. He had a full head of dark hair and peach fuzz hair all over his little body. His anxious new born cry sent shivers up in my spine, a reminder that this really happened. I cradled him in my arms, looking at his five fingers and toes. Tom proudly held his son, a moment that touched my heart and made me so thrilled that we had a son.


My story continues, for I need to share something that happened on that hospital floor that stays with me. That night, after visiting relatives went home after meeting Dylan, the nurses wheeled my baby away to the nursery. They insisted this so that I would get my sleep and rest as needed. I lay there still and listening and of course I couldn’t sleep a wink. Five or ten minutes raced by and suddenly I heard Dylan’s cries floating down the hall. I just knew they were his, no doubt in my mind. I had to go to him and hold him. Trudging down that cold floor, I was ready to power talk those nurses and plead for my son to come back to our room. Sure enough Dylan lay wailing in the incubator and with tears running down my cheeks, I simply said, ” please bring my son back.”

I lay on my side that night, with one eye resting and one on my new baby. No, I didn’t get much sleep that February night but my son was by my side with his dad not far off in a recliner. All was good in the world.


Now that my little mothering story has been told I want to wish Dylan a very happy 22nd birthday! He’s a great  guy holding down a full time job at a local garage and paying his bills responsibly. Dylan plans to marry the love of his life in August and will start his family story. Tom and I are very proud of the kind of man he is and the young lady he’s chosen to marry…she’s a peach.


All My Best,

Heart and Soul 💗


Who Inspires You to be Good?

Flipping through Oprah’s March 2018 magazine, I saw the question, who inspires you to be good? I’m always striving to live like Jesus would, with kindness, compassion and empathy for my fellow-man. As I age, so does my heart expand with these traits and I work on these because I want to be good, to do amazing things in this world and affect others in a positive light. This doesn’t mean that I’m perfect by any means and sometimes I waiver and I  need God’s little  reminders to keep me on track.



My mom is one of the people who inspires me to be good. She visits people in nursing homes and prays for them and volunteers at a local senior center.



When I ponder over Oprah’s question, several inspirations come to my mind. First, God inspires me to be good in this life. I may not attend a church in this time of my life but I hope that I live a godly life. I pray throughout the day as a connection to Him and he carries me through every time. I realize that I need to take time to read the scripture and learn as much as I can. It’s a void that I’m going to fill soon.


Secondly, like many of Oprah’s readers, I am inspired by my family starting with my mom and dad. Even if I’m nearing 50, it still matters to me what my parents  think of me. I want to make them proud and that desire will never wane!


I wish for my husband to be proud that he married me. He doesn’t tell me all the time but I know I inspire him to be his best. We both compliment each other in that way. His calm and loving nature is good for me and the way he treats his clients is heartwarming ( he never charges more year to year because he knows people have a hard time making ends meet).


I also care what my sons think and want them to be happy by my example and live that way too.

Here is my dad, a hard-working man who creates wood projects with love and who I’m very proud of.

So I’m inspired everyday by God, my mom and dad, my husband and my sons. These people are who I look up to, who I wish to shine the brightest for and that keeps me going, striving to be the best person I can be. I’ve learned many principles in this life and one of them is to stay inspired and inspire others by trying to be an impeccable person. There are days I fall short of that desire but instead of crying in a puddle of tears, I pick myself up and try again.

As you go about your life, ask yourself  who inspires you to be good? You probably have multiple people as I do. Ask yourself are you being as good as you could? Are you focusing on others or yourself and your needs?

All My Best,

Heart and Soul 💗

Capturing JOY

Capturing Joy…

One of my friends on Facebook ( Keri Lyndes) posted this gem of her children enjoying the snow. What a capture of joy! This photo was my inspiration for this post!









Our niece Michele’s friend’s darling daughter before a dance recital.




My son Dylan and my beautiful daughter in law to be announcing their engagement in our little humble town.









Embrace moments of joy…

Feel the very essence

of its beauty,

its exploding energy

that erupts from your core

that can’t be tamed.


This joy that speaks to us all,

The excitement of the moment,

the thrill that send chills

up your spine.



Our nephew Justin playing baseball. 😁


My son Dylan pitching in baseball



The excitement of playing

what you love

is an act of pure joy.



My nephew’s Spencer and Luke winning a snowmobile race


The special graduation milestones

express joy,

these images forever

embedded in our hearts.


Our beautiful niece Paula, her precious daughter Alena at her Kindergarten graduation with Paula’s best friend Jill



Our niece Samantha celebrating her high school graduation with her Stepdad Roger.



It’s the joy that creates belly laughter

among family and friends.


My sister Barb, myself, my mom and my niece Ella.


The joy of mothers and their daughters


Our niece Jennifer and Tom’s sister Mary


Tom’s mom Theo and his sister Pam


and of mothers and their sons

being together.


Our niece Jennifer and her three sons Justin, Jared and Joe and his girlfriend


My sons Branden and Dylan and me



My husband Tom and his smile of pure joy

Capturing Joy…

recognizing bright smiles

in a family moment.




The joy of knowing yourself and it shines through like golden rays of the sun


The joy of young love 💗



The joy of family reuniting,

bridging long distances

with tightly wrapped up hugs.

The joy of finding the special one


Our niece Paula’s awesome stepchildren.


How amazing it is

to see evidence of

pure joy

and feel it

and all the love in  a single picture.



If we could just remember

the joyful moments

from our lives

on sad lonely days

and swallow our sorrows


We could open up those

memories like

pretty packaged gifts!



Breathe Joy.

Indulge in JOY.

Capture the Joy!


Remember to capture your moments of joy! Thanks to Keri, Theo, Pam,Mary, Paula, Jen, Michele and Jojo for contributing their lovely photos and memories! Thanks for the expressive writing inspiration, Michele! 

All My Best,

Heart and Soul ❤

Blame and Responsibility ( Reflections from Will Smith)

Thanks to the celebrity Will Smith, I’m inspired this morning to reflect upon blame and responsibility.  Lately Will has posted short video clips on social media and  I’m supposing it’s to make a difference and touch lost souls. I was eager to listen, mostly because I think he’s a great actor and grounded family man, an overall good guy. As I listened to another video, I was reminded of some truths that I’ve always known but have forgotten.

Shared from Will Smith’s video on Blame and Responsibilty on Facebook.




His first video that I noticed focuses on blame and responsibility. Will’s message is that most people blame others for a problem, finding fault with outrage. It could be a broken marriage, alcoholic parent or abusive situation and you want to immediately blame who caused the hurtful situation. Don’t we all try to blame others for hurt and expect them to fix it? I know I have, in the past.



Will says blame and responsibility don’t go hand in hand. In other words, when someone has hurt you and broken your heart, it’s not their responsibility to make it right. It’s yours! If your spouse has ruined your marriage by cheating, it’s your responsibility to pick yourself up and carry on. It’s all up to you…to heal, to mend your heart and create a life of happiness. If someone has wronged you, it’s your job to make it right. Only you can fix it…for it’s entirely your responsibility alone!



As I age and gain wisdom from life, I don’t blame as much as I used to. Where would it get me? Nowhere! Instead I try to understand the person’s actions and sometimes his\ her life and upbringing explains a lot. Instead of being hateful with blame, try to let it go. Frost it with understanding and unconditional love.



Fixing your broken heart from any situation is your responsibility! Stop blaming! Start healing and living the best life you can. If you are on Facebook, look up Will Smith’s videos, they are stark honest and real. One is on Failure and how it’s vital to fail and another is Who is fanning your flames, in other words who is supporting you?


Happy weekend to you all! Tom and I plan to visit a friend’s house to watch the Super Bowl and we will be cheering on our New England Patriots and Tom Brady! Go Pats!🏈🏈🏈

All My Best,

Heart and Soul