Thanks to the celebrity Will Smith, I’m inspired this morning to reflect upon blame and responsibility. Lately Will has posted short video clips on social media and I’m supposing it’s to make a difference and touch lost souls. I was eager to listen, mostly because I think he’s a great actor and grounded family man, an overall good guy. As I listened to another video, I was reminded of some truths that I’ve always known but have forgotten.
His first video that I noticed focuses on blame and responsibility. Will’s message is that most people blame others for a problem, finding fault with outrage. It could be a broken marriage, alcoholic parent or abusive situation and you want to immediately blame who caused the hurtful situation. Don’t we all try to blame others for hurt and expect them to fix it? I know I have, in the past.
Will says blame and responsibility don’t go hand in hand. In other words, when someone has hurt you and broken your heart, it’s not their responsibility to make it right. It’s yours! If your spouse has ruined your marriage by cheating, it’s your responsibility to pick yourself up and carry on. It’s all up to you…to heal, to mend your heart and create a life of happiness. If someone has wronged you, it’s your job to make it right. Only you can fix it…for it’s entirely your responsibility alone!
As I age and gain wisdom from life, I don’t blame as much as I used to. Where would it get me? Nowhere! Instead I try to understand the person’s actions and sometimes his\ her life and upbringing explains a lot. Instead of being hateful with blame, try to let it go. Frost it with understanding and unconditional love.
Fixing your broken heart from any situation is your responsibility! Stop blaming! Start healing and living the best life you can. If you are on Facebook, look up Will Smith’s videos, they are stark honest and real. One is on Failure and how it’s vital to fail and another is Who is fanning your flames, in other words who is supporting you?
Happy weekend to you all! Tom and I plan to visit a friend’s house to watch the Super Bowl and we will be cheering on our New England Patriots and Tom Brady! Go Pats!🏈🏈🏈
All My Best,
Heart and Soul